Temper?

Who’s the boss, you or your temper?

This is an important question, because people who have anger management issues often feel like they are not in control (which they aren’t). Lust for power is generally not considered a good thing. However, control over one’s own actions and reactions, and particularly over one’s temper is an extremely good thing.

Although feeling dejected for having lost control after the temper has subsided is not very useful, feeling determined to keep control before tempers flare is quite useful. The trick is to remind your temper who’s boss before it gets the better of you. You can say to yourself, “I am the boss.” And whatever other lines you need to put temper in its place.

After all, you really are the boss.